Society

The prevalence of cohabitation is a devaluing of women

For all the talk these days about “empowering women” and “gender equality,” it seems the effects of a growing trend have missed the attention of all these people supposedly so eager to improve the lives of the female sex. That trend being that young women now increasingly forgo marriage and instead choose to live with a man without there being any legal protection or social accountability should anything go wrong with the relationship (which is a frequent conclusion in such arrangements as it is).

A man may now with full social approval take a woman into his living space, treat her as miserably as she will put up with, use her for sex and whatever other comforts she will bestow upon him, and then for whatever reason he decides he may end the arrangement at any time, no matter how long this had been going on, without any legal or social repercussions. Amazingly enough, this is seen by some as an advance for women compared to generations previous who were instructed not to live with a man unless he agreed to a life long commitment to marriage.

Of all the confusion and moral sliding that has gone on over the last century, this new custom is one of the worst, especially given how widespread it has become. Not only does it trap women in dysfunctional co-dependent relationships, erodes all sense of responsibility and commitment in men, while building nothing towards the development of a healthy family unit; additionally more often then not it leaves the participants psychologically damaged, financially broke and in a far more desperate situation at the end then they were at the beginning.

This should come as no surprise since the very existence of the institution of marriage and its mandation as the only acceptable living arrangement between the sexes has been carried out through all time to specifically avoid the catastrophes of cohabitation. Contrary to popular misconception, marriage is not for the sake of love, it is for the sake of social stability, particularly so that children may have secure environments for their upbringing and continue the human race.

In an civil society, men would view women as something that they could not have sexual access to them unless they offered them a life long commitment to marriage. That is because in a civil society women would be considered so valuable that for them to give themselves away to a man without him making that commitment would be a cheapening not only of her worth, but of decent women in general. In feminist terms, it would be similar to the notion of a modern woman working a high skill job for a very low salary or not getting paid for her work at all. Of course, in a civil society women are considered too valuable to be pressured to exchange their time for money in the first place, much less to exchange their body and partnership for a temporary situation at a man’s convenience.